How are you? Happy New month y’all. I hope you get all the love and happiness this month has to offer.
Guys, I am trying to be consistent with posting at least once every week so I am gonna share what is on my mind although I didn’t plan this post. It’s actually a little personal but it’s fine. I am cool talking about it with y’all.
It’s February and it’s the “month of love”. I have been angry almost the whole week with people flooding my dm with Valentine packages. I don’t know how that is even annoying but I guess they are constant reminders that I am single.
Yes, I am 20 plus many years old(lol) and I am single. I have been single for almost my whole life( have dated for a very short while once and have fallen in love with a couple of men but I have been mostly single.)
I love being single but sometimes, just sometimes, it gets unbearable. Like when you get these kinda videos when Valentine is approaching,lol. You get reminded that you are, LONELY!!!!
Hehe! So funny😂. But,yeah you are single.
Why am I still single?
I am waiting!
Funny? A friend gave a hearty laugh to this answer when he asked me this question.
“What do you mean by you are waiting? See, love is a choice and a decision. When you see what you like, you go for it. Ain’t nothing like a man made for me. God won’t bring you no man, open up and accept one of the dudes around that you vibe with.”
I got all defensive when he said all that and gave him quotes and facts and logics but deep inside I was broken. What if he was right? What if I was doing it all wrong? What if I was letting my one chance of a good husband go in my attempt to “Wait on God”.
I purposed in my heart not to date until I met someone God was ok with me dating and I knew was right. It has being amazing being single and free, lol. The non-commitment, the do-whatever-you-want-moments, its been fun, but it has not been easy, not in the least. Especially since I have ever been in love. Sometimes I feel the struggle is because I miss the feeling of being in love and being loved and not necessarily the need for a man (but a man will offer that love, right?)
Society has a way of letting you question everything, including your faith in God. The logic they give is so right it seems just foolish not to believe theirs instead. But do you think God will lie to you? Do you think God will not give you the husband or wife he ordained for you? Do you believe God ordained someone for you?
I believe. I know that he cares about that one too and he will sort me out on that too.
It gets lonely, it gets saddening (when you really want someone to talk to or be vunerable to), it gets frustrating ( when you catch feelings for someone and you really wanna get into a relationship) and it gets tiring ( why not just settle already?).
“God please, can you just let us not fall in love with people who ain’t gonna be our husbands? It hurts!😢😢😢.” Will he listen?, I ain’t sure,because emotions are emotions. Well!,hmmm.
I am speaking to my self as much as I am speaking to you, it is worth the wait!. It is best to wait and do it right the first time.
We ain’t too young to be trying and “erroring”, it has to end in marriage and it gotta be right.
I know it is not gonna be easy with social media flashing all the lovey dovey stuff all over especially with Valentine around the corner but I bet it would be worth the wait.
Let’s get something worthwhile doing and enjoy our season of singlehood while we wait and pray for grace to continue in this season and not soil our purity. It’s gonna be worth it.
Are you single? How are you coping with the season of singlehood? What are your struggles? Any tips and bits you have learnt? Kindly share.
I love you dearies. I pray it ends in praise for us.